Homecare Training Essential for Caregivers

Training is essential for in home caregivers to ensure the happiness, health and wellbeing of their patient or loved one in addition to providing necessary information to the caregiver on proper care techniques to provide a safe, healthy and supportive environment.

Many of us are tasked with caring for an aging parent, relative or family member with a disability. Frequently, most of us were unprepared for the role of primary caregiver and quickly learned how stressful and complex the role of in home caregiver can be. There are homecare training programs available that have been created by healthcare professionals to help the in home caregiver learn how to create a positive living environment along with providing the much needed technical detail that many family members do not have when beginning the process of being a primary caregiver. However, many of us may not have the time or resources available to obtain formal training before taking on the responsibility.

Listed below are suggestions to keep in mind when caring for a family member in their home or your own.

1) Learn techniques for the personal care of your loved one including proper techniques for bathing, lifting and carrying.

2) Learn to recognize early warning signs of health issues. Also, learn to check basic vital signs.

3) Be sure to respect the dignity and boundaries of your patient.

4) Ensure your loved ones physical and nutritional needs are met.

5) Provide emotional support and be sure you have emotional support, you’ll need it.

6) Know the local resources that are available to help you and the one you are caring for.

7) Maintain your own good health and wellbeing.

Keeping these suggestions in mind will help you provide a positive and healthy environment for you, your patient and your family. Proper in home care can make an enormous difference in your loved ones life and can mean the difference in being forced to enter a nursing facility versus maintaining independence and living at home.

Contact your local hospital, council on aging or community college to inquiry about formal home care training programs in your area. Additionally, look for programs that are recommended, endorsed or approved by the National Alliance for Caregiving or the National Family Caregivers Association.

Caring for your Parents

While surfing the web this morning, I ran across a link to a PBS documentary called “Caring for your Parents”. As most of you have seen and hopefully watched, I have posted a link to another documentary on my blog called “The Sandwich Generation”. That video chronicles one family’s struggles with the issues of caring for children while taking on the responsibilities of caring for aging parents as well. The PBS documentary takes us into the lives of five families all from different socio- economic backgrounds, cultures, financial circumstances and medical/aging related issues.

I took the time to watch the entire video which lasted about 90 minutes. The nice thing about the way PBS has the website set-up you can watch the video in chapters. So, if you don’t have the time to watch the entire documentary, you can watch chapters at your convenience, a few minutes at a time.

As the population ages, adult children of aging parents are struggling with how to deal with the unprecedented social, economic and personal issues surrounding being a caregiver. “Caring for your Parents” is a moving film that draws attention to the emotional and universal reality we are all struggling with.

There are many relevant issues covered in the documentary like struggling to keep parents at home, tension among adult siblings and the complexity of changing the caregiver’s role as the health of the parent changes. Additionally the impact of care-giving on marriages and the importance of taking care of the caregiver are important topics covered in this documentary.

I find watching films and documentaries like this help me to understand how to better respond to the needs of my aging Mom. I’m also learning the importance of my own health and well being in addition to the needs and feelings of my siblings as we are working through helping our Mom.

To watch the video on-line just follow this link: http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/caringforyourparents/watchonline/index.html

Life Stage Events and Instinct

As I grew older, I realized that my siblings and I would eventually be faced with elder care issues and those life changing events that have now been defined as issues of the sandwich generation. As my parents were aging, my family and I were finding more and more occasions to celebrate and spend time with our parents. Then it happened, it seemed like life changed in an instant and we were immediately forced to recognize and adjust to life stage events that were beyond our control.

For Dad’s 75th birthday, we planned a small family get together. We all planned and coordinated our flights and schedules so we would arrive on the same day within hours of each other so we could make an entrance and all arrive at the same time at Mom and Dad’s house. Dad loved and enjoyed the entire weekend! For my Mom’s 75th, we all surprised her and showed up at a local restaurant, then stayed the entire weekend. It was so fun planning the weekend and keeping it a secret from her. She was so happy! We also planned cruises and vacations together, always enjoying each other and the time we were spending together.

None of us in my family were prepared when my father passed away quickly and without much notice. Unknowingly, we were forced into our first life stage event related to our parents aging and health. Once something happens like this, it changes everything in your life. I realize each person deals and accepts death differently, but I always thought that with the activities and time we spent together that I would be at peace when my parents pass away, knowing they lived a happy life and were loved. Not true. I think I was in shock the first few months after Dad died. It didn’t seem possible that I would never be able to ask his advice, go on a vacation with him or simply web cam with him on a Saturday morning. Even though we had our own feelings and grief to accept, my sister, brother and I knew we had to focus our energies on Mom. How could she live the rest of her life without him? So, immediately the focus changed from me and us, to her. I really think, we did it without even realizing it at the time. I wouldn’t do anything differently today now that I’m looking back upon it. It was instinct.

Additionally, during this life stage event, my sister had to address the concerns of her children. She was forced to balance the managing her own grief along with the grief of our mother and her children. That’s what the sandwich generation is all about. How can we effectively manage our own lives, along with those of our children and aging parents?

Being a parent, you instinctively care and love your children unconditionally. It’s the same dealing with the issues of your aging parents. You don’t have control of the situation, but are forced to deal with the consequences and make decisions that affect you and your entire family. Mutigenerational family’s life stage events affect everyone and never just one person. I’d like to give you the magic answer about preparing to deal with these issues, but I don’t think there is one. Communication between all members of the family is the key to handling the issues as they arise. With good communication you can be sure that everyone has an understanding of the issues and are in agreement with the plan to address them. Don’t try to prevent or ignore the issues, but be prepared to deal with them effectively when they do arise.